Charles Richard, the author of the book ‘The Psychology of Wealth: Understanding Your Relationship with Money and Achieve Prosperity’ says: “Don’t be fooled by the calendar. There are only as many days in the year as you make use of. One man gets only a week’s value out of a year while another man gets a full year’s value out of a week.”
It goes without saying therefore that spending one’s time wisely is one sure way to make the best of life. One of the subtle ways people waste time is engaging in needless conversations. And this can even be more wasteful in business settings, where one needs to build a good network that can yield valuable gains.
I have met people on several occasions that I desperately wished I could spend more time with but who were too busy to take the conversation further. Likewise, there were people with whom I have had to abruptly end conversations, who later told me they wished our discussions had continued longer. These are scenarios in life. And I believe I am not alone.
It could even be worse if one feels that such interactions should have ended on better note. Perhaps you felt that the person was rude to have ended the discussion – and in the manner he/she did. Or that, he or she should have paid a little more attention than it happened. These are daily encounters by people in all walks of life.
There is a common saying among the Yorubas of South-West Nigeria that “sometimes, there is a lot to say but there will be no time. At other times, there will be so much time but nothing much to say.” At times, we may not be busy but the conversation isn’t just right for us. In any case, the conversation MUST end.
It is not out of place therefore to learn how best to end conversations without putting future relationships and/or business opportunities at risk. And many who wish to sharpen their networking skills may therefore be interested in finding out how to end conversations without offending anyone – if and when one needs to do so.
I have read this beautiful piece authored by Ivan Misner, Founder and Chief Visionary Officer of Business Networking International (BNI). It beautifully captures how best to deal with a conversation without jeopardising future relationships. I believe you will learn from it -like I did! Do enjoy it!